NA IVICI STE NERAVA? Pravilo od 5 minuta bi moglo da vam spasi vezu!

Ma koliko voleli da provodite vreme sa partnerom, nije lako kada ste upućeni jedno na drugo 24/7.

Nervoza, u tim trenucima vrlo lako može da se stvori i zbog najmanje sitnice, a da onda preraste u svađu.

U slučaju da ste primetili da je upravo ovo slučaj kod vas, tokom izolacije, pravilo od pet minuta je pravo rešenje.

O njemu je na društvenoj mreži Instagram progovorila influenserka Grejs Hejzel, a radi se o jednostavnoj vežbi komunikacije u kojoj svako dobije po pet minuta da kaže kako se oseća i to bez napadanja druge osobe. Dale, da izrazi svoja osećanja pred partnerom, koji će ga pažljivo saslušati. Grej to naziva nenasilnom komunikacijom.

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THIS is the most important thing I have ever learnt about relating in relationships. Concious and Non Violent Communication ✌?: PART TWO. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Quite a few of you were up for finding out more about this.. The other day I read an article named “hilarious things I’ve learnt about my partner since working from home during isolation”. Folks were having all sorts of insights, like finding out their significant other is a “just to clarify” guy or “let’s circle it back” kinda person. But what if actually all this lock down malarkey is bringing all sorts of deep, uncomfortable shade around your relationship to surface? What tools can you adopt to keep the peace, love present? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Concious and Non Violent Communication, that’s what. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So what is Non Violent Communication? I’ve pulled some great stuff from an article on lifelessons.com, written by Michael Frank. It interviews Alan Seid who explains it way better than my frazzled lil brain can in the midst of 30 degree Indian heat in. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Here is is… ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “Non Violent Communication is about how we express our honesty in such a way that our perspective is most likely to be received with understanding, and our needs are most likely to be met in a way that’s in harmony with other people’s needs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ On the listening side it’s about how we receive what might be coming at us, even when it sounds like an attack or blame or criticism or a judgment, and how we listen for the other person’s needs and values so that we’re standing in a more compassionate place, so that we’re less likely to get defensive, and most likely to diffuse a potential conflict.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Back to my feels.. If something is bothering you, instead of shouting “oi, you bloody idiot, I hate it when you >>insert thing that absolutely fucks you off here<<, it makes me so mad”. Instead, take a moment to breathe and gather yourself. Ask your partner if now is a good time and say that you’d like to express something tender to them. Use the phrases from the 2nd image of this post (by Marshall. B. Rosenburg) to support yourself to communicate and listen. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (MORE BELOW IN COMMENTS)

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“Ukoliko želite nešto da rešite, pokušajte da postavite alarm na pet minuta od trenutka kad ste krenuli da govorite. U tih pet minuta recite svoje argumente, pri čemu je drugoj osobi zabranjeno da vas prekida, verbalno ili izrazima lica. Nakon što vaših pet minuta istekne, osoba koja je slušala dobija pet minuta da vam objasni šta je ona čula od svega što ste rekli. Nakon toga, partner dobija svojih pet minuta da kaže šta misli”, napisala je Grejs.

Takođe je objasnila da tako možete nenasilno da pregovarate, sve dok ne dođete do tačke u vezi sa kojom ćete se usaglasiti.

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